Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Eureka moment #1
Last weekend, I was getting a haircut at the barbershop, when I noticed a situation occurring between a father, son, and daughter. The situation was noticeable to everyone in the room. The boy was around eleven years old and he was getting a haircut. After getting his haircut, the father gives both children a reward for their good behavior at the barbershop that was candy bars. He allowed his daughter to make the first selections. The boy starting crying, because his sister selected the candy bars he wanted. The father rush the boy into a corner and asked the reason he was crying then the father started to get upset at him for not acting like a boy. The father was embarrassed by his son showing feminine characteristics in front of other males. I would have done the same thing, if I had a son crying in a men's barber shop. Is it, because I was taught that men don't cry in front of other men and especially a girl? I left the barber shop thinking maybe the boy needs to be toughening up before he is picked by other boys in school.
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Week 2, response 1
ReplyDeleteLauren,
The belief has to do on how you were raised by your parents. I was raised by my mother; because my father worked long hours and his job require him to take many business trips. I also, had three older sisters along with my mother taught me how to do household chores. I learn how to cook, clean, and laundry. I am secure with my manhood of taking of care of most of the housework in my home. My wife works long hours and sometimes her job requires her to take business trips. The housework duties are shared by my wife and me. I think the culture is accepting the changing roles of men and women in a family. The image of men helping in raising children was shown in the movie “Daddy Daycare” and the movie had the perception of men handle nontraditional roles in the household.
May 27, 2010 6:30 PM
week 2 response 2
ReplyDeleteSarah C.
The age old rule is beneficial to women in most situations. The lady first rule is common courtesy to women. Women can influence the social setting at a restaurant in a large by the services on the waiter or waitress. Ladies have Ladies night at bars to attract women to a particular bar. Women have an advantage of using their sexuality to help gain an advantage, which is a weakness of men. I have noticed women usually have made up their mind when it time to order from a menu and this why when I taking a women out to eat I always ask them where they want to eat at. Society norms are expectation for men is to do the values in a culture that are considered being a gentleman. The behavior is shown in romantic movies by male actors. I went out to dinner with my best friend and his wife. My friend holds the door for his girlfriend for years and now they are married he still hold doors for her. At he takes her coat at dinner time and put her coat of the back of chair. His wife looked at me with a rude expression, when I didn’t take my wife coat at dinner time. The expressions on her face grab my attention. I think a broke a cultural value that is second nature for my friend.
May 28, 2010 12:02 AM